A commitment problem cannot be solved with information
One of the common decision-making mistakes is confusing your need to commit to something with your need for more information.
This one confusion causes:
Endless back and forth
Dragging your feet.
It is energy-sapping. Exasperating.
But you can clear out the brain fog. In fact, you’re one step closer just by having spotted the problem. Imagine how much you could gain by solving it. Quicker decision-making | Better decisions | Better outcomes
Let’s say there’s someone you’re considering spending your life with. You’ve dated long enough. You’ve seen him in good times and bad.
Yet, it’s a big decision. You ask friends and family. You hear the same things–’he’s so funny, he cares about you!’ You knew those things already. Around that time, you hear about this friend whose husband turned out to be, well, not the same man who went down on his knees. You start second-guessing. You feel like you need to know more.
Ask yourself: ‘Is any of this information that has me second-guessing both new and relevant?’ The answer will tell you if your solution is information or commitment.
Now ask yourself a second question, the deciding one: How would I feel if I lost this opportunity? If you feel uneasy, take the plunge! If you’re at peace, move on. Either way, your problem is not information. It is your constitution.
This advice is not only for those getting cold feet in love. You can replace choosing a partner with investing in a company, buying a house, going public, starting a business, or any other hard decision. In none of these cases, beyond a point, can your commitment problem be solved by more information.
And that point is simple. Yes, you want to collect reliable information. But once you start finding the same things or start losing opportunities, it is a sign that you already know. You just need to act.